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I have often asked myself what I wanted out of Love in my next chapterThis month made 6 years since my divorce and I can tell you one thing…My thoughts on Love and what I want have changed more times than I can countI’ve watched people go from relationship to relationship after their own divorces or break upsI’ve seen some work but most failI’ve dated…some good, some bad, some just plain ol’ whatever For the most part I’ve played it low keySo low at times that I went celibate for 13 months which was wildBut today as I was preparing...

Something about reading that took hold of me some years ago…If you’re ever around me, I promise you I have a book on me or in my carI started reading to get my mind off my life to be honestI wasn’t in a good place and reading took me away from it allI use to fall asleep anytime I picked up a bookThen I realized I was reading the wrong booksI began picking books that inspired meSome on self help then a bunch on people who destroyed their lives and bounced back even betterI bought me a small book bag...

Guess what…?My kids are gamers too, yep.They game, they rage and get upset as wellThey shut down and get quiet when a game doesn’t go as plannedOr if they catch a random headshot on Fortnite from a “random” they’re playing against…(as my son refers to as - non-friend competitor)I say that to say this…I slip up from time to time and tell him to shut it down take a break I don’t want to hear him upset…But, that usually doesn’t help; it didn’t provide him a solution, it was more me just shutting it downSo what I’ve learned and always...

…New Career?I often do “manly” stuff in crocs to show the easily offended that I’m not totally full of toxic masculinity…There’s still hope for meAll jokes aside, I am enjoying this chapter of my life…And yes, I have to admit…(whispering) I enjoy my crocs too…I have done so many things in my life to earn a living and I can say right now…I am at my happiestI am using my hands to work with wood, but also my creative sideI went to trade school for graphic design, fell in and out of love with itNow that schooling has transferred to...

I stopped playin years ago…I know, I’ve heard the word…Dudes a trip now, I don’t even know who he is or why I ever messed with him…Keep it that wayI was locked in before 2020 and trust me, lockdowns were a blessing to meI got militant with itSo I agreeYou don’t know me, I’ve changedFor me, it was the best…And if my current best isn’t for youThat’s ok, it isn’t supposed to be…Let me be clear it’s for me and my kids…That fat boy you see on the next photo is just waiting for me to fall again…He reminds me...